LIVING AS APPRENTICES
I’m working on a book on living our lives as apprentices every day. This week I started a chapter on living with an attitude of abundance. As always, I rooted around among my nearly 250 posts to see if I had written something on that topic earlier. Sure enough I found this entry from Nov. 27, 2012. I’m re-posting it since many of you are new to the blog:
A dust-up at work one day reminded me of something I learned from Stephen Covey years ago: the principles of scarcity and abundance.
I was raised in an atmosphere of scarcity – of love, trust, affection. My mother taught me at an early age that there was also never enough of God. Embittered by the death of her husband, an army chaplain, in World War II and left to care for a three-year old daughter on her own, she was careful to teach me never to be too happy because one day “the other shoe would drop.”
It was astonishing to me, therefore, to read as an adult that there are people in the world who are relatively free of fear, jealously, yearning and other emotions that roil around when a family is mired in a culture of scarcity. These people were raised in an atmosphere of abundance. There was always enough love, trust, respect, hugs, time, and all the other important things that children need.
And then I learned that the culture of scarcity also infected my view of God. What a shock when I read the statement, “You can have as much of God as you want.” How could that be? I couldn’t fathom not having to fight for or perform for someone’s attention and love. I soon learned that I was not the only one who assumed that God couldn’t possibly notice me because of all the other more important people who demanded his attention. I had to re-learn the stories I had told myself about who God was. It was difficult to understand what Jesus even meant by the abundant life (let alone believe that it could be mine) for someone who had rarely felt an abundance of anything good . . . hardscrabble living dies hard!
I also had to learn about relationships with people. For example, it is possible for a good friend to love me at the same time she loves another friend. Who knew? It is possible to believe that people will affirm rather than criticize. It is possible to walk around with my hands open to receive rather than with tight fists hanging on to what I had.
Attitudes of scarcity and abundance explain many problems in interpersonal relationships – even in the church. The gospel of scarcity easily finds a home in the church. We really don’t want new people to join us because there’s not enough of anything (the pastor’s time, pews in the back, money, parking spaces). We can nay-say all attempts to start new projects, develop new ministries or raise new monies. It is too much of a stretch to believe that God will provide because we have always assumed there will never be enough of anything.
On the other hand, people who see abundance are ready to charge forward. They assume that what is needed will be provided. They are eager to look at the old problems with fresh eyes because there is enough intelligence, enough dedication, and enough determination to do whatever God is calling them to do. They can trust in the present and the future because they learned to trust in the past.
I have learned that an attitude of negativity and fear and unwillingness to change can be alleviated if I just stop to think: Is my attitude a doctrine of scarcity? If so, can I change my thinking? Can I trust the fact that I was created in the image of God and that God never is in the business of scarcity? God is all about abundance. We need to move into that neighborhood with him.
As I reflected on the incident at work, I realized that it flared up because someone had an attitude of scarcity so powerful that he couldn’t see that he didn’t have to fear that someone would take what he needed. He, and we, can trust that we can always have enough of God and God’s resources as we want and need. There is always enough of God and God’s love to go around!