“I can help you with that!”

Living as Apprentices

We were talking about the Holy Spirit.  One person in the group said, “For a long time I didn’t know a lot about the Holy Spirit.  Now I do, but I don’t often remember to ask for the Holy Spirit’s help.”

A general discussion followed on how hard it is to ask for help – and how the Twelve Step concept of powerlessness makes  asking for help less difficult.  I then told a story about my conundrum about purchasing a table to put in my new “writing room” – one which will allow me to spread out everything I need as I write.  My problem is  finding a way to get it from the store to my house.  I had thought of several solutions but the only one that seemed viable was to ask for help – which I really didn’t want to do.

We had quite a discussion on this issue and its underlying false narrative:   pride or perfectionism or rugged individualism, among others.  At the end, one of the group members said, “So ask for help.”

I said, “For what?”

She said, “What do you need help with?”

I said, “A truck to pick up my table.”

She said, “I can help you with that.”

Then someone else in the class said, ” I have a table you may have.”  She went on to describe the very table I wanted to order.  “We don’t need it anymore and I couldn’t figure out what to do with it.   The two of us will work together and you will have your table.”

After class, a third member came up with some rolled up $20 bills.  She asked me to give them to a fourth class member who she knew needed financial assistance.  After relaying the cash and the message to the extremely grateful young woman, I headed back to my office and saw a fifth member of the class in the hall.

We talked a bit about the discussion on asking for help.  She said, “I wish people would ask for help.  I have created margin in my life so I can help, and I do several things, but I wish I could help more individuals.”

I looked at her for a few seconds and then finally said, “Do you like garage sales?”

She gave me a big smile, “I love garage sales!”

I said, “I hate them, but I need to have one in June.  Would you like to help?”

“Of course,” she said.

One of the tenets of the Apprentice series is that if everyone shared, we would all have enough which speaks in opposition to the false narrative, “I need to keep what I have because I won’t have enough.”  As I write this post,  I  remember that a former Apprentice student (now an Apprentice teacher) is coming to paint my bathroom tomorrow (because he can and because he is grateful and loves to bless others).  I am more and more committed to helping everyone see the truth and wonder of that concept.

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5 Responses to “I can help you with that!”

  1. Sheila says:

    I love that narrative: if everyone shared, we would all have enough. If you’d like, you can share my thought on this with your class:

    We are here alone in our village. Mario and I are the only born-again believers. And we long for the involvement, sharing, and helping that comes with body life. If no one has needs, we don’t get the blessing of helping and giving. And we never start to feel like a real body, a real family. You are all so blessed to have others you can ask for help, and that you can help! Don’t rob yourselves of this blessing! From Italy, wishing all of God’s greatest blessings on you all!

  2. Thy Kingdom come, thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven!

  3. Dee Hubbard says:

    How amazing to see God’s Kingdom in action! Everyone using their gifts for the good of others and thanking God for the opportunity. It was so great to hear how that one question, “Can you help me?” lead to the first blessing and then to the next blessing and the next and the next. The Spirit is alive in his kingdom people!

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