We have entered the season of Lent, a period of 40 days before Easter when Christians traditionally lament over their sins and then, in response, choose something to give up such as chocolate or Facebook or alcohol. The idea is to daily turn away from what distracts us or derails us and turn back to God. Instead of giving up something for Lent, this year I encourage you to let go and let God.
LETTING GO FOR LENT – WATCH YOUR MOUTH!
“Watch your mouth” was a clear statement that someone in our family said something out of line (except the parents, of course). And the parents who said it meant it. I distinctly remember the horrible taste of brown Lava soap as my mother “washed my mouth out” when I said a forbidden word as a young teen-ager. I thought of that incident often during the years when I was a volunteer reading teacher in the county jail and walked the corridors or sat with an inmate and heard language I had never heard in my life – and, unfortunately, began to absorb by osmosis into my vocabulary.
But I never thought I would see the day when candidates for the highest office in this land would throw around insults like school boys in a playground as they are arguing who is the best person for the job. Talk about counter-intuitive! But here we are in 2016 listening on TV and radio and hearing offensive language sliding off the tongue like butter from one candidate and rolling out less confidently from others who want to win the competition for biggest bully in the campaign.
I thought about this ugliness when I dipped into Calvin B. DeWitt’s book, Song of a Scientist, The Harmony of a God-soaked Creation again.
“. . . Human beings have a special honor of imaging God’s love to the world that bears with it a special responsibility. God is love and we should image God’s love. Imaging the Creator’s love and care for the creatures sustains us as their appreciative beholders , prevents us from abusing them or their kind, compels us to have compassion for the biosphere. . . “
Of course, DeWitt’s subject matter is care for creation, but I think his words are just as applicable to how we are to care and communicate with each other. When we fall to the level of demeaning the way someone looks, talks, thinks, or believes, we are no longer communicating. We are bullying. Bullying in any form is dangerous as well as ineffective. It’s time for Americans to watch our mouths!
Watching your mouth involves other tasks than just editing offensive language. “Little white lies,” exaggeration, not speaking up when we should (as in when the whole group around us is gossiping) are all examples of lack of integrity of speech. In his book, The Good and Beautiful Life, James Bryan Smith recalls a time at a dinner party when he was asked about his opinion of Hawthorne, a writer Jim had never read. He reports that the conversation lasted an awkward ten minutes, during which he responded with “carefully crafted lies.” “Why did I persist in the conversation?” he asks. Why do any of us hide behind lies? His answer is that we all have “a deep need to think well of ourselves. ‘I am important and my well-being is my main mission. There will be times when I need to lie in order to gain what I want or prevent something that I do not want. That is why lying is okay. ‘ It is an ends-means justification.”
Every time I teach this material I am brought up short. How often have I pretended to know something that I don’t, to save face? How often have ugly words escaped unbidden?How often have I shaved a little truth from an excuse, such as “Sorry, I’m late. Traffic was bad,” when in reality I had tried to cram too much into too little time and was just rudely late?
How often do I exaggerate? For example, I often say, “I’m starving!” I have never been in danger of starvation, but many people have been and many more still are. When I exaggerate, I diminish the impact of the word starvation. How often have I kept still in the face of mean gossip or just plain misinformation?
In many ways, our world is blowing up in around us. We need to be kinder, gentler, and more compassionate than ever. We need to work hard to learn the truth. We need to work harder to speak the truth and just as hard to distinguish the truth in others’ words. We need to choose our candidates out of respect and trust, not because we’re angry and they speak our anger louder than we can or dare. We need to be Christ-like in our care with words. We need to watch our mouths! Let’s let go of speaking, listening to, and relishing in and approving angry discourse. Let us let God give us our truths to speak.
Karen, I’ve been rereading the Feb. devotionals from Words of Hope recently. Everything I read has been jumping off the page with application surrounding conversations with an individual I’ve been having. This person is an atheist but the Great Hound of Heaven is nipping at their heels. This person is asking big questions and is beginning to consider the possibility of a creator. I could go on describing the conversation we’ve been having but suffice it say, the devotionals are helping put language to the exciting reality that there is a God who loves us and desires for us to live an abundant live….a good and beautiful life. Thanks for writing these!
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Wow! What an encouraging comment! It reminds me of a statement by Richard Rohr who quotes aphorism that states: “No on one catches the wild ass by running after him, yet only th ose whorun after the wild ass ever catch him.” He goes on to say that “God is humble and never comes if not first invited, but God will find some clever way to get invited.” (Breathing Under Water, p. 57) Thanks for sharing your adventure.
I appreciate your comment! I think this particular bad habit can be eliminated only through a discipline of recognizing it in our lives, becoming willing to change it, and letting go and letting God transform us. Recognize how often we respond with little lies, exaggeration, gossip, etc. is the first and hardest step, I think.
Thank you for this timely reminder, said so clearly and kindly. I will use this as a discipline, something to be aware of, particularly in the waning days of Lent.